You’ve seen the pictures, watched the videos, and read the romantic captions. Young couples doing cute things together, fairy tale proposals, elderly couples who are still madly in love with each other, etc. Then someone comments with the famous #relationshipgoals. It’s a hashtag on social media that is supposed to signify the “ideal” relationship. Right now, 3,926,129 Instagram photos pop up when you search the hashtag. Here is the hashtag on Twitter.
The couple looks perfect in the picture, so their relationship must be perfect, right?
But things aren’t always what they seem.
Take away the candid shot, the overly-saturated filter, and the sappy description. What’s under the surface? Well, we are all human, so it’s definitely not perfection as a picture suggests. This hashtag creates an illusion that relationships are all sunshine and roses, but it only portrays a snapshot of reality- that one couple’s reality in the moment that photo was taken. And most importantly, relationships do have their special and happy moments, but couples also endure hardships as they learn to work together.
To be clear, there is absolutely nothing wrong with couples displaying their happiness for each other on social media. It’s also okay to admire couples spending time together and doing cute things to make each other smile.
So what are some real #relationshipgoals we should idolize? How about sacrifice, selflessness, and commitment? How about patience and understanding that the people involved are not perfect? Trustworthiness, effective communication, respect, honesty, support, the list goes on and on. These are the goals we should strive for in our relationships. These #relationshipgoals go beyond the surface and capture the essence of what it means to be in a fulfilling and healthy relationship.